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13 Obvious Signs your partner has lost interest in the relationship
Hi guys, today we would be looking at the 13 obvious signs that indicate your partner has fallen out of love and lost interest in the relationship. In other words, you are in a one-sided relationship.
Love, of course, is a beautiful thing but it could also be not so beautiful and painful when you give all your love and it is not reciprocated.
When it comes to relationships, It is one thing for you to love someone and another thing for someone to love you. However, the real beauty in a relationship is when you love someone who loves you as much as you love them and you are both putting effort and giving the relationship all it requires.
Mutualistic Relationships are one of the most amazing things you’ll experience in life
Signs you are in a one-sided relationship
A happy relationship should be filled with love, care, fun and happiness. However, both people in the relationship need to provide those things.
If you find that you’re going the extra mile for your partner but your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t going out of their way to put you first in the relationship, it could be a clear sign that you’re in a one-sided relationship.
You might begin to think your relationship is one-sided or your partner has lost interest when you start to notice hints and traits from your partner. These hints include differences in communication, body language and actions.
Signs he is no more in love with you
It can be very hurtful and painful to realise he or she is no more in love with you and you’re in a one-sided relationship. Especially when you are still very much in love with them and it feels like you’re making all the effort. It can be painful to face the truth that your other half simply isn’t trying or interested anymore.
But before jumping into conclusion, there are various cases where it could be that your boyfriend still loves you but certain environmental and situational changes could make him seem a little restricted. Also, make it feel as though he has changed. An example could be a new job or loss of a job, trying to hustle etc.
So sometimes your boyfriend/girlfriend may simply be busy with work or college and they simply just don’t have the time to put in as much effort as they used to. However, it can be the case that they’ve stopped caring as much.
Even though most times you would know when that is the case if you are in a relationship with a transparent person. You would also know and get the hint when they just aren’t interested anymore.
Your instincts would definitely tell you but just to be sure here are some obvious signs that your partner is no longer interested in you and your relationship has become one-sided.
13 obvious signs your partner is no longer Interested
No Contact/ Communication
This is oftentimes the number one obvious indication that your partner is no more interested. Did he initiate texts and calls with you a lot before and then gradually stop over time?
When you realize the long texts have become hi, hey. When you realize the late nights and constant communication no matter how little has become ‘how are you doing’ once a week. Similarly, once a week slowly turns to once a month if you do not message them.
They hardly contact you and when you contact them it feels like you are annoying them. You’ve sent them texts and messages and they haven’t responded or they’ve replied with very little conversation. You want to keep the conversation going but it’s clear they are making zero effort or do not care about the conversation.
You shouldn’t feel like you’re annoying your partner by wanting to have a conversation with them. You should feel at ease speaking to your partner about anything and you shouldn’t feel unable to contact them without it being an issue.
I would always say – the moment you begin to get a vibe like this, then be rest assured they don’t care and are not interested to make anything work and the earlier you accept that, the better for you.
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Hardly want to see you
Not wanting to see you or showing interest and being all bombed and enthusiastic about seeing you is also an indication he or she is not interested or could be over you.
They hardly make plans or aren’t excited when you do. You are the only one who keeps fixing dates and even when you both see, it feels as though your presence easily piss them off.
Instead of wanting to spend time with you, it feels like they only spend time with you because they have to and they feel obligated to, just to keep you happy.
Both partners in a relationship should be enthusiastic and excited about being with each other. If you don’t like being in their space or they don’t like being in yours then love is missing.
Constant excuses
When they are no longer interested, you would realize they have a PhD in giving excuses. Most times point 1 and 2 always comes with excuses
Why can’t you both see? – They are busy
Why didn’t they call or reply? – They are busy
Or better still when you call, you could hear them say ” Let me call you back. I want to close the fridge ” -LOL. Its always from one excuse to the other.
Just like I mentioned earlier, yes your partner could be genuinely busy and you would know and should be understanding. But how busy can you be that you can’t spare a few mins of your time for someone you claim to love.
Most times the phrase ‘I’m busy’ when used way too often is just a lame-ass excuse and a clear indication that you are just being posted and they probably don’t know how to tell you they are not interested and want you to get the hint.
Just Like I mentioned in my article- principles of time management. I said ‘Time is a created thing and to say you do not have time is to say you do not want to”
So if they are never willing to go out of their way to create time for you, then they are indirectly telling you they are not interested.
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You are not one of their priority
If you check the things they are busy with and dig into all their excuses you would get to realize the bunch of unnecessary and unimportant things they choose to put before you.
Yes depending on the situation at hand you might not be their number only priority at that particular time but u should and must be part of their priority if they value you and the relationship.
If they put everything in their life before you, including work, friends, social life etc every damn time then they are not serious with you and you are not a priority of theirs and they’re not making an effort to make you a priority in their life.
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They take you for granted
It’s not new to find guys putting so much effort when trying to win you over and after they have they begin to take you for granted especially when you have become head over heels in love with them.
And it gets even worse when they are no more interested. They take you for granted and begin to treat you more like a friend or a mate who will always put up with their crap cause they feel you would always stick around.
When he or she begins to take you for granted and is not scared at all of losing you then not only do they not love and value you but they are not interested in you.
No atom of care, concern and effort
This sign is usually an obvious one because when a guy or girl doesn’t care, you would always know irrespective of what they say
Actions always speak louder than words
Even things as little as always sincerely asking about their welfare and they don’t reciprocate is a sign they are not interested in your life.
You keep wanting to know how they are fairing but they hardly want to know about you. You are always interested to learn and know something new about them and also want to know what they are thinking if you got them upset or not but they never care about you, your likes and dislikes or even want to know what’s wrong with you.
They never put effort into anything. On the contrary- When someone likes you, you find them wanting to put the effort into doing the things you like just to please you even if it’s not something they are good at.
You find them getting better with time with you and taking note of the little details about you that might seem trivial. They say a man who truly loves you can change for you because a man who cares about you would care about what you think of him.
So when he doesn’t care, shows concern or puts effort into anything and you find yourself keep complaining and complaining but nothing changes then he is not interested in you and doesn’t care if he loses you.
Body language
When a guy or girl likes you, they might not say so directly, but their body language most often will. They would always want to be close to you or around you and have a body contact.
When he hugs her, she hugs him back and more and when she Pecks him, he goes for a kiss Etc. You just know the energy is reciprocated.
It’s easy to miss these cues but you’ll notice them subconsciously – they’re a big part of the reason why you think he or she likes you in the first place.
However, you’ll notice if his/her body language was telling you one thing before, and has changed since then.
If his/her body language has changed in a big way towards you, and he’s no longer sitting close to you, or touching you, or she doesn’t fancy you touching her anymore or he/she looks uncomfortable when close to you. Its a sign he/she is no longer interested.
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Always Flirting With Other People In Front Of You
Most guys, if they’re interested in a woman, will go out of their way not to flirt with any other women in front of her especially when they are wooing her.
They don’t want to risk pissing her off and making her uninterested in dating them, so they avoid making it look like they’re interested in anyone else.
It goes vice versa as well, even though women “sometimes” flirt a little just to see if the guy they are interested in would be a little jealous. But they would never go out of line and make you think they like the other person to you or do it constantly.
So if your partner constantly keeps flirting seriously with others in front of you then they don’t take you seriously, aren’t scared of losing you or are no longer interested.
Sleeping around
No one would accommodate someone who sleeps around especially in an exclusive relationship.
As we know, Trust is crazy important in any relationship and you can only trust your partner not to do such.
But if you even suspect your guy or girl is sleeping around or their actions keep giving off those signs then you need to take that as an in-your-face signal he’s not into you anymore.
Worse yet, if he’s openly sleeping around and not even trying to be sneaky about it, you need to get rid of him pronto.
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No atom of jealousy
If he or she is not interested at all and doesn’t care that they might lose you to someone else, that says a LOT about whether they want to be with you or not.
Some guys/girls don’t get so jealous – but almost anyone will react if they think they’re going to lose someone they’re interested in.
Yes, being obsessively jealous is not always a good sign but normal jealousy is part of every genuine relationship when something is about to get out of hand.
So if he or she never gets jealous – not even a little bit – it’s a huge sign he or she is not interested in you anymore.
They are too secretive
A relationship where one person brings their dirty linens out in the open more than another should be a little questioned.
Yes, some people are shy and secretive to some extent but there is a difference between being shy and secretive for all of the wrong reasons.
When he never talks about himself or keeps diverting the conversation to you or something else when you ask him personal questions, that’s a signal he isn’t ready or willing to move forward with you.
When He or she never opens up to you about a lot of things then they probably do not consider the relationship a long-term one or when they use to be very open before and then they’ve stopped. It could be an indication they are no longer interested.
It’s all about sex
If he’s only interested in you when the two of you are getting hot and heavy, then you need to give your head a shake and consider the fact he’s probably only using you for sex.
That moment he never contacts you or you hardly communicate, he doesn’t show much care or concern, always busy and never always wants to see you except when seeing you involves sexual activities when it is not a friends-with-benefits relationship. Then, he is not in love with you nor interested in you
A healthy relationship is all about balance, and when the only time you spend together revolves around only sex, then you’ve found your cue to say good-bye.
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Your instincts
The last but not the least significant is your instincts. Let’s be honest – your gut is going to give you the best answer to this question.
Often, when people begin to fumble and give signs, love makes us so blind to it that we could even be coming up with excuses for them and acting all understanding.
Well, you and I both know deep down the truth is always there whether we choose to accept it or not.
Yes, your instincts might not always be 100% correct all the time but it’s hardly wrong. When he or she is no longer interested, you would always feel it.
The moment you do not feel so good about the relationship anymore and you find yourself constantly worrying about it then your instincts are already giving you the hints.
Conclusion
The best way to figure out whether they are still interested or not is to compare their behaviour now to how they were before and I believe the answer becomes more glaring.
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