10 visible signs that you are in the right relationship

They would usually say when you are in the right relationship, you’d know because your hunch and instincts would most likely tell you.

And as we all know, those are hardly ever wrong.

But still, you can’t always be so sure.

Hence, you’re required to watch out for certain signs that could act as confirmatory signals.

So,  how exactly are you supposed to know that you’re in a relationship that’s totally worth holding onto?

1. Mutual feeling & attraction

First and foremost, if you are in a relationship where the feeling, as well as attraction, is nowhere close to mutual, it is the first pothole signal that obviously indicates you are with the wrong person and in the wrong relationship.

Without attraction, your relationship may not be right for you.

“Attraction requires polarity, a push and pull, some degree of tension, in order to ignite the spark.”

Without that spark, it’s going to be difficult to be happy long-term.

Yes, it is true that oftentimes one person could love the other more initially but eventually, they could both grow to a point of mutualism because after all love does grow.

But then, if after a reasonable amount of time and the feelings are far from mutual then the earlier you call it quit, the better it would be for you both.

So, if the feelings are mutual then its one signal that you are in the right relationship.

PS: you can’t force a person to feel what they just can’t feel. And you just can’t blame them either.

2. You can be yourself

If being with this person feels like having to put on a show and change your character or putting on a song-and-dance in an elaborate attempt to impress your partner, then you are in the wrong relationship.

A relationship that feels like you are acting a part and not actually being you is a fake relationship.

When You’re not thrilled about having to learn all the things they are interested in, and they don’t even try to do the same with your interests or you begin to feel stupid for being who you are.

No relationship is worth sacrificing who you are!

When you are in the right relationship there is absolutely no need for pretence, no need trying so hard to prove a point, no need trying to impress so much, no need trying to be someone else, you are not too much or too little of anything because every bit of you is just enough.

You don’t have to hide any parts of yourself.

You don’t have to ignore any of your values, likes, hobbies, ideas…etc.

You don’t put each other down because you accept each other’s differences and respect them.

3. You Help Each other Grow

In the right relationship, both partners are nurtured to continuously improve and develop themselves.

You should be in a relationship that makes you a better version of yourself rather than the opposite.

You help each other in so many ways.

They show you things you didn’t know, teach you valuable lessons, encourage you to follow your dreams and to listen to yourself.

A relationship where you can both learn from each other and grow.

A relationship where you both act as a motivating factor to yourselves in order to do better.

A relationship where mere looking at your spouse makes you want to become a better man or woman.

A relationship that adds value to you.

Be it romantic or platonic, any relationship that plays a role in your growth is a relationship that’s definitely worth keeping.

4. Peace of mind and Trust

This is a clear hallmark of a healthy relationship.

In fact, if you really want to test your relationship start by testing the state of your mind.

Peace of mind in a relationship is pretty much very underrated.

People don’t seem to know how important having peace of mind in a relationship is.

If you have got this then you are in the right relationship. (PS: lack of peace of mind here is different  from your personal insecurities)

This peace of mind could also come in the form of trust.

When there are total trust and no need for any snooping around.

Like going through your significant other’s texts, emails, Facebook messages, etc.

That may not feel like a warning sign, but needing to poke around is definitely not positive in any relationship.

If you don’t feel the need to go through his/her stuff or second guess their every statement in doubt, then that means you two have built up a level of trust that lets you know how much your partner care.

5. When you both see a promising future

Now, this is the truth a lot of people do not want to hear but need to be said.

Any relationship where you both can’t picture a future together is a complete waste of time.

If you are looking for a serious relationship, this is obviously not the relationship for you irrespective of how much you like the person.

When this person happens to be someone you see a possible future with then you are in the right relationship.

Some might say isn’t that moving a little too fast?

Well, whether you choose to walk like a snail or run like a cheetah, its a point you must eventually get to.

Whether you like it or not, the earlier the better, except you aren’t looking for a serious relationship in which case there’s little or no point.

In the right relationship, You both have pure intentions.

There is no playing one another.

You help each other on your journeys, both put effort into your relationship and are both enthusiastic about a future together while sharing a  genuine passion for that future together.

And while not everything lasts forever, partners who share a vision for what their future entails are in a much better position than partners who don’t, or worse, don’t even discuss the topic.

6. You are compatible

Compatibility is a very important factor in a relationship and it comes in various forms :

– medical  compatibility

– mental compatibility

– Personality compatibility

– Sexual compatibility…….etc

You can have compatibility without love but you can’t have love without compatibility – Vikki Ziegler

Compatibility simply means getting along with someone very well.

Finding someone you’re truly compatible with in many ways isn’t easy but at least you both need to be compatible to a good extent.

Yes, they say ‘unlike terms attracts‘ but relationships isn’t always some physics theory because sometimes it also crashes when there is absolutely no common ground.

Attraction theory also says ‘like attracts like‘.

Well, obviously there are no particular rules to these things.

You can both be different on some levels but yet compatible on other levels and vice versa.

But still, compatibility is paramount for a long term relationship.

Mental compatibility would be asking;

How do they think and how do you think?

Does their mindset always repel you?

And are you both just never in sync with each other?

What are their interests and what are yours?

Of course, you both would never always agree at everything but the question is do you always disagree at everything?……..

Personality compatibility would be asking how well do your personalities Fit or how well do your personalities complement each other?

Just as personalities can blend together well, they can also clash.

Even when the sex is great, you can still not get along.

Sometimes, two extroverts can actually clash.

Just as two introverts can clash or even an extrovert and an introvert.

What does this mean?

There is no balance in the relationship.

What’s important is that you compliment your partner.

Sexuality compatibility focuses on the sexuality language of your significant other.

You aren’t always going to be at the same level.

Sometimes you’ll want more, sometimes she will.

Sometimes you’ll feel adventurous, sometimes he will.

But, generally speaking, you should be compatible with your sexual interests and desires, in quality, quantity, style, and all other characteristics for a happy long term relationship as this also is an important part of a relationship.

Medical compatibility which people don’t often pay much attention to should actually be one of the most important factors before you even fall in love (LOL winks).

It sounds hilarious but it is won’t be after you are 10years into a relationship, madly in love and realize your genotypes are not compatible and you have to call it quit for future reasons (well happens not everyone does, some people still go-ahead to take the risk which isn’t the best because you place your unborn children at jeopardy).

So generally, When you are in the right relationship you realize you are both compatible.

Both have similar views on marriage and kids and

When the going gets tough, as it does in all relationships, knowing that you share the same core values makes difficult decisions easier because you both have the same inner compass. Core values are the foundation of a strong relationship ― Megan Fleming,

7. Positive feedback from loved ones

Trust me, if you are in a relationship where no one is giving positive feedback especially from your family & loved ones then you probably need to re-evaluate that relationship.

A lot of negative feedback is a bad sign and that’s the truth.

That doesn’t mean everyone will be enthusiastic about your relationship.

However, the overall sense you get should at least be positive.

So pay attention to what your loved ones are saying about your relationship.

You don’t need their validation, but if everyone else can confirm that you make a good team and are madly in love, then that might just mean that you’re perfect for each other.

8. Good conflict management

There is conflict in all relationships.

And by “conflict,” we specifically mean verbal disagreements and arguments.

People disagree and that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

In fact, you have the right to a different opinion from your partner.

But how well do you guys resolve your conflicts?

When it comes to conflict management in a relationship you have to understand that sometimes you would both need to agree in order to disagree.

If you and your partner can’t resolve an issue, sometimes it’s best to drop it.

You can’t agree on everything.

Focus on what matters.

If the issue is too important for you to drop and you can’t agree to disagree, then maybe you’re not really compatible.

Other times you need to Compromise When Possible.

Easy to say but hard to do.

Compromising is a major part of conflict resolution and any successful relationship.

Find a middle ground that can allow both of you to feel satisfied with the outcome.

Always Consider Everything.

Is this issue really important?

Does it change how the two of you feel about each other?

Are you compromising your beliefs or morals?

If yes, it’s important that you really stress your position.

If not, maybe this is a time for compromise.

Also, consider your partner’s arguments.

Why are they upset?

What does the issue look like from their point of view?

Is it unusual for your partner to get this upset?

Is there something you missing?

The right relationship isn’t about everything being perfect.

We don’t need to agree on everything.

And that’s an important realization.

But if you both have difficulties in managing your conflict even after trying these then I guess you are just not compatible which means you are with the wrong person.

In the right relationship, it’s not always about rights or wrongs but understanding and you both coming out the other side of an argument in one piece.

Recommended: Are Relationships Really About Compromise?

9. You get the right energy and vibe

This means that positive vibes are the positive feelings that you get from someone when they enter or are in your vicinity.

To ”Vibe” with someone means you’re able to relate to the person’s mood, character or situation better because of how relatable it is and you will be able to connect more with them than others.

Do you brighten up, feel uplifted and happier due to their presence and positive vibes that it radiates?

Or are you suddenly drained of emotions and look morose?

If spending time with your partner exhausts you or drains your energy or they happen to kill your vibe a lot, you might be dating the wrong person.

When You feel positive energy, a higher vibration when you’re around them or during conversations, keep this person.

The energy, or “vibe”, you feel around someone is important in a relationship.

This may all sound like hocus-pocus but People who actually often send positive energies,  play together as well as vibe a lot stay together.

Healthy couples are great playmates and enjoy being active together.

PS: Learn to trust your vibes.

10. Good Communication & Comfortable Silences

Communication is key to building a happy, healthy relationship.

When you are always open, honest, and direct with each other and enjoy talking with your partner without necessarily feeling you being too much or anything or the fear of always being judged.

When you prefer talking to someone else when something is up rather than your partner or you feel as though you need to force them to listen to you then you are probably in the wrong relationship.

In the right relationship, you both should be able to communicate with each other freely.

As much as it’s good to communicate, comfortable silences are also important in a relationship.

Ever had a friend who you were able to sit in a room with and be silent, without it being awkward?

Just doing your own thing or enjoying each other’s company?

This is also an important part of a relationship — not having to speak all of the time, and sometimes just being together.

Alone time isn’t merely just something that would be nice to have, but rather a necessity for your mental health and also healthy for a relationship.

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